People Mean Well, But...
This post is for those who ask women questions about marriage and babies, and it’s for those women who are being asked those gut-wrenching questions. Most people mean well when they ask a woman, “When are you going to get married?” Or, if you’ve been married for a little more than two days, they start asking, “When are you going to have a baby?” If you’ve already had a child with your husband, people start asking “When are you going to have more children?”
I truly believe those people mean well, but they just don’t understand the hurt they may be causing someone who is teetering on the edge of an emotional collapse while dealing with that very sensitive subject of their lives. The questioner doesn’t know if that person they are questioning cries every day because of the sadness they feel about being single or being without children.
So, what I offer to those who simply must question a woman’s relationship timeline or pregnancy status is to instead, focus on the less touchy aspects of that woman’s life and/or her well-being when asking questions about her private life. Asking her “are you going to get married?” or, “When are you going to have a baby?” won’t make her get married or have a baby any sooner just because you asked. Be sensitive to people’s personal lives and try no